It goes without saying that after marriage grandparents are looking out for grand kids. And I guess everyone somehow automatically considers themselves fertile and the last thing we think about is the possibility of infertility – not being able to naturally have kids of our own. This can be devastating not only for the couple, but also for family and others who are close to the couple. Unless both parties agree that they do not want to have kids. But the vast majority of us do want to have kids of our own and preferably, naturally. But this is not always the reality. Some couples are unable to bear children of their own and this can cause problems within a marriage, especially when there is an expectation by the parties themselves and family of the couple having kids – ‘to complete the family’ as many would say to the question why have kids?
A partner not being able to bear kids may result in some couples divorcing or committing adultery and having outside children or the spouse who is unable to bear a child may become depressed and blame themselves for their inability to have children, be culturally stigmatised or outcast or disowned by their family because of cultural beliefs of a curse on the family and so on …
Have you thought about what you would do if you found out your potential spouse is infertile? And what if you got married and later found out. What would you do?
I would hope the person I marry would work through it with me as I would him! The are sssooooo many options now and there is always adoption,things like always will be as bleak as you make them!